Have you ever read an online message and "taken personally"? Questioned the sender's "attitude"? Did you find yourself having to postpone your own response instead of "you mean bad?" Then you've experienced the hidden challenge of trying to communicate in the tent and the online tent.
Risk of Lost Connections
Without processing the sent messages, processing is done, accepted and acted in the correct way, so all online writing interrupts the connection. Although our words on the monitor are mere points on the screen, they can have a great impact on it. And much depends on how the recipient interprets and interprets the emails as they are read. Each of us has our own "filter" to scan all sensory inputs – whether visual, audible or tactile. So we are processing the words according to our accumulated life experiences, and how they have influenced our attitudes, values, and belief systems.
Let's consider this one sentence: "They always have the desire to show their essence." Now imagine that he just came to you by e-mail. What did you say ? In fact, the sentence can be interpreted in seven different ways. Try reading aloud, and always puts emphasis on other words (except "a"). Can you imagine the difference with the version of each release? This can be done with online messages.
At the same time, due to the intricacies of self-conscience and the complexity of self-image and recipient processing messages, you can begin to see how complex the communication task is. Messaging on-line is even more challenging because "as soon as it's there, it's there". The onscreen points have a new meaning and we can not even convey our tone and body language with our intent. Your words have any consequences.
Nature of Media
See that the nature of the email requires shortening. And shortness of mind can easily be misinterpreted because it is different – depending on the reader. In fact, it is the only voice we can hear in "writing", what we put into our own ears and minds. Although we rely on words, we often miss the point that words do little to replace what we really want to say. Everything we hear, see or do – everything that we have in our tastes and smells – is done through our own "filters". "
Starting with the genetic make-up – the material we have been born – and changing directly through experience of life – the brain is constantly working, constantly and unconsciously trying to make sense according to the senses, according to Dr. Richard Restak's leading neurologist and author read, process and respond to those points that are found on computer screens – those that are fully matched to the messages – are open to discussion.
Dots vs. Emotions
The reality is that neither is "real" "Another leading neurologist, Dr. Michael Gazzaniga, claims that perception comes through both the brain" interpreter "," the last tool of the brain's information chain. "Gazzaniga adds that" blaming perception, memory, and judgment "means because it tries to make sense of our brain being constantly under processing" z Illion "Thoughts 19659008] To examine this is another way, any reaction you make to your messages that you have read or heard is a construct: something that the brain has grasped to make all life experiences" sense ". In the email, the brain does not have the ability to listen to tone sounds or help observe the body language to correctly interpret the words.
Somewhere in the process, tangible, observable facts become hard to the soft, gentle objects that we call "feelings" – our emotional responses to each transaction of life. In this process, minds are also trying to bring about sensory integration according to our values, beliefs, lifestyles and even opinions.
We all believe that our e-mail message is with the best intentions. However, sometimes we do not give others the same attention. As a result, emotions became involved and the temperaments warmed up. Words have often been altered, which would have become unnecessary if we only did the following:
· Immediately recognize that one of our "buttons" was pressed when we read the email, causing a negative reaction.
· Press "Print" and print the message in the unit.
· Close your emails instantly …
· Take more deep breaths.
· Do not touch the keyboard.
· Leave your computer to go to a quiet place and read the message literally to determine which word has a negative reaction or feeling.
· Consider where the answer comes from. (Your roots may have been buried in the old experiences of the individual or others.) • Ask yourself really is worried about the message.
· Create the best possible report for the words that caused the reaction. Give her the full sense of doubt. A good memory casino for this: "If you have any doubts, quit." Avoid negative thinking. It's devastating. Avoid the value phrases that tag the behavior of another person or attribute motifs.
· With the most positive perspective, you can gather, return to your computer, and open a new Word document.
· Enter the words "Thank you", "Understand", "Evaluate" and "Perhaps" on the screen.
Now, with the top-line positive mental attitude, fill the vacant places under each chapter. Even in the worst scenario, the on-screen words read something like this:
"Thank you for sharing your views, though I understand you have a different view on this issue, about this and your willingness to share your opinion on Tuesday."  If the message requires you to add anything to your answer, say so ask the writer to clarify or confirm the question,. And keep all the comments positive and constructive.
After all, you do not have to win a battle that can only be a craft, an "interpreter" – the same thing that often misses "intent" behind others. words. And if your interpreter was right, how bad was it? The practice of separation is that one perceives that the other person directs from his actual content and places it in a positive and optimistic state of mind. The other person treats with dignity and respect and gives you the full amount of the same – and more likely to get the same from the other person.
Gazzaniga, MS (1998). The past of the mind. University of California Press.
Restak, R. M. (1991). The brain has its own. New York: Harmony Books.